Labels - What's the point?

It is human nature to put labels on things so we can communicate them in the best way possible. Yet I am about to communicate something that may contradict some of the things I have previously said and done.

Let me explain.

When I identified as bi, my mother thought I was confused and should eventually choose one or the other. But at the time, I was certain that I loved girls, and I also loved boys.

Recently, I came out as gay/lesbian. I thought it would make things simpler, but instead it has left me feeling more uncertain than before. It feels like an identity shift layered with the reality of still being attracted to the same sex.

Like many things in life, sexuality can feel like a two-sided walled garden. For some people, labels are empowering. For others, they become boundaries. And those experiences vary widely from person to person.

What I have learned is that human beings have the potential to love almost anybody, regardless of what they are into or what views they hold.

I truly feel this. Whether I’m with a man or a woman, I don’t want to keep labelling who I’m attracted to anymore. I just want a good person in my life — someone kind, someone who sees me for me. I know what I want in a relationship, and that matters more than anything.

Labels shouldn’t divide us, define us, or take over something that is still unfolding.

Let's just leave that part alone, and love each other.